The friendliest thrive

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Only the friendliest strongest survive.

As we consider the ancient biological drive of survival, we can feel and see the remnants of the idea “only the strong survive.” Of course, our hearts and higher selves know this not to be true. Daily we witness and live the values of cooperation, trust, love, and connection. But some of us, most of us, still carry a cellular memory of “only the strong survive” with its core frequency of fear.

As we tune into the remnants of this ancient drive, we can honor the role it played in our survival and evolution. We can grant it the freedom to evolve and dissolve as we celebrate the liberating paradigm that cooperation is now the survival characteristic, not strength.

Just for today, consider the idea that being friendly is now more important than being strong.

Note: For an interesting read on canines and how being friendly is the determining trait of survival, I recommend the chapter “Survival of the Friendliest” in the book The Genius of Dogs by Brian Hare and Vanessa Woods1.


While tapping on the side-of-the-hand points, say:

  • As I consider the idea that only the strongest survive, I notice how this feels in my body.
  • As I consider the idea that being friendly is now paramount to our development, I notice how this feels in my body.
  • As I notice when I feel strong and when I feel friendly, I deeply and completely accept myself.

Tap three rounds, using the following phrases:

  • This old programming that only the strongest survive
  • This new idea that the most cooperative thrive.
  • This shifting of perspectives from surviving to thriving

Brian Hare and Vanessa Woods. “Survival of the Friendliest.” The Genius of Dogs: How Dogs Are Smarter than You Think. NY, NY: Dutton, 2013.

Post excerpted from Just for Today, A Year Around the Sun

Photo by Krista Mangulsone
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Deborah Donndelinger

Deborah Donndelinger

I'm writing from Maryland, but my heart goes out all over the world. I'm cheering you on as you tackle the hard stuff, embrace the easy, and show up to help others.