Ancient Nahuatl Blessing
This ancient Nahuatl blessing shows that we can both appreciate and release our family patterns.
Appreciation for ancestral healing
The second stage of healing is in our DNA and ancestral lines Today I want to talk briefly about the second stage of our healing journey, healing our wounds on a family, ancestral level. I found ancestral work during an Allergy Antidotes workshop when one of the participants talked about hidden family loyalties contributing to chronic … Read more
Arguing with the wrong person
This post was first written in 2012. You might find it’s even more relevant today. Those of you familiar with Family Constellations and/or Family Energetics know that things aren’t always as they seem when it comes to family relationships and interactions. One situation in particular that captures my interest and has shown up in my … Read more
Family Energetics in 100 words
Difficult, yet common, events occur such as war, death, divorce. The family system reacts and defends, doing the best it can at the time. The expanding family matrix adapts but contains an entanglement. The entanglement gets passed on and shows up in our current lives. We heal this entanglement, revealing the love and acceptance that’s … Read more
Video intro to family energetics
Painful family events in the past can be addressed today using tapping and some healing principles called Family Energetics.
Beginnings and endings
Everyone has their own unique process of handling endings and beginnings. Like the astrological signs correspond to starting energy or fixed energy or completing energy, we might find that we are better at endings, beginnings, or staying the course. For those of us who are quick to engage with new ideas or projects, we might … Read more
The cause of family entanglements
Where are those stubborn blocks coming from? Events further back in time within the family matrix. (The family matrix refers to the connections between ourselves, our parents, our grandparents, our great-grandparents, our ancestors beyond them, our homelands, and people who have been impacted by our family and are now part of the matrix.) It’s not … Read more
Honoring our choices
I was at a mall a few weeks ago exchanging a gift in an expensive store located near other more expensive stores. Walking through this section of the mall, I noticed women dressed quite elegantly, looking very put-together, and I felt a bit envious and uneasy. I commented to my daughter that one day I … Read more
What is Family Energetics?
Our hearts long to belong. We want to know that we have value and we come from a family that has value. However, how do we love and accept our ourselves and our family when we see a history of abuse? Or a history of cancer? Or a history of mental illness? Or lost babies? … Read more
A joyful event
The world met you on December 5, 2012. I had known you for a bit longer. The first time I saw you, I literally shook with excitement, awe, and delight. I was overcome with seeing you in physical form. I delighted in looking at your features, your details, and the love of life you represent. … Read more
The force field of the group
Family Constellations teaches that guilt is the price of leaving. What if there’s a new way? When we leave a family unit, or any group that gives us a sense of safety and identity, it’s like we are leaving the gravitational field of a planet. It takes a certain momentum to leave. Often this momentum … Read more
Family Energetics
You’ve done your personal work You’ve done your personal work, but still feel stuck in some areas of your life. Perhaps a relationship that just doesn’t feel right, lack of progress in your work, or a general sense of unease with who you are. You don’t fit your life, yet. You’ve tried tapping, therapy, past life … Read more
When EFT isn’t enough
I love EFT. I love how we can make significant changes using a whole new paradigm that is really mind-boggling with both its potential and results. Do you remember the first time you used EFT and felt the emotion fade from your body and the expansive feeling and thoughts move in? It’s truly an awesome tool. … Read more
The missing piece of healing found in Family Energetics
Family Energetics is a new approach for getting relief The premise is the same as Gary Craig’s for EFT but at the family level. The cause of negative emotion is a block in the FAMILY’s energy system. Solutions are found in the family matrix Problems found in the family matrix can look like blocks in our … Read more
EFT and Family Constellations
The very first blending of tapping and Family Constellations, this article explaining the combination of EFT and Family Constellations was published in Gary Craig’s newsletter in 2010. It eventualy led to the book Family Energetics published on Amazon on 2012. Hi Everyone, Deborah Donndelinger says, “I have come up with an approach for using EFT … Read more
The relief of knowing ourselves
Much of what I’ve written about in my newsletters is how to use EFT, Family Energetics, and now Human Design to know ourselves. EFT allows us to clear past traumas and old emotional blocks so that we can fully access and embrace our authentic selves, releasing old patterns, blocks, and thoughts that limit us being … Read more
Mistaken marriage, mistaken children?
Whether we are the adults getting divorced, the young children of the divorced parents, or even the adult children of divorced parents, divorce matters. For the adults getting divorced, there are the usual feelings of guilt, relief, grief, betrayal all mixed up in one. For the children, there is often a hidden feeling of not … Read more
When we choose to leave
Hello friends, Below is a powerful tapping script that comes from my work with the family matrix and EFT. I invite you to expand your concept of family and home for just a bit and see how our hearts still carry our history of many generations …. When we choose to leave The U.S. is … Read more
