Healing yourself, loving the world
What’s a fishbone and how can I use it? I used to do process improvement work and one of the tools for expanding thinking is the fishbone diagram, aka the cause-and-effect diagram, aka the Ishikawa Diagram. The tool is a template for brainstorming possible causes of an effect. The tool can be used in two … Read more
Our orientation to the world affects how we tap on core beliefs, or not.
EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, also called tapping, is a powerful self-healing tool that takes only minutes to learn.
This was published on EFTUniverse last year. That’s why the format is more formal than normal. And I’m delighted that Keren herself wrote the closing paragraph. My scans are clear …. When I read that email from my client Keren, I was touched deeply. I knew that we had cleared some of the issues surrounding … Read more
I appreciate Miriam’s words so much as she conveys what her experience was like working together. Hi Deborah, I wanted to put into writing how much I appreciate your tapping support, and the deep skills you bring to our tapping sessions, both in technique and ‘framework’ and in being able to hold the space. When … Read more
I woke one morning this week with a sudden, expansive, and relief-feeling thought. For the past few months, ever since I finished my Family Energetics book, I had been working on some business plans but had been feeling some resistance and things weren’t flowing. I kept feeling this expansive ambition but when I tried to … Read more
This fall, I had the chance to work with a delightful 11-year-old boy T. who was having some trouble with math. His parents and the school had tried a variety of ways to support him, and he had made great progress in all areas but math. The parents asked me to see what I could … Read more
Date March 19. 2010. Location An alternative health care center on the East Coast Task Follow the relief The background At the time I was suffering from a variety of health issues that were really dragging me down. I had had a sudden weight gain of 45#, severe joint pain, stiffness, headaches, and major detox issues. I was … Read more
One of the breakthrough insights I had during my daily tapping was around the role of the emotion of shame. This insight applies also to fear and anger (Enneagram enthusiasts will recognize these three emotions as corresponding to the heart, head, and body triads respectively.) I never knew what to do with the feeling of … Read more
Don’t be like me and stop at 1 or 2 intensity! Keep going and find new aspects for relief.
The very first blending of tapping and Family Constellations, this article explaining the combination of EFT and Family Constellations was published in Gary Craig’s newsletter in 2010. It eventualy led to the book Family Energetics published on Amazon on 2012. Hi Everyone, Deborah Donndelinger says, “I have come up with an approach for using EFT … Read more
Yes, you can tap for someone else, if you get yourself out of the way. Here’s how.
This article was the first piece I wrote on the Enneagram and EFT, published in an EFT magazine in the UK. You can find several other updated posts on my site on this subject. A practical model of transformation The Enneagram is a spiritual, psychological, and self-development model and system with a rich history. The … Read more
The set-up phrase is a powerful part of tapping as it calibrates where you are with the issue.
When something happens in the moment and I have an over-the-top reaction, how do I know what to tap on? I don’t really – I just try different language until something “pops” or clears. Yet as I think about it, I can see four “levels” of tapping possible. (Probably many more – I just don’t … Read more
Much of what I’ve written about in my newsletters is how to use EFT, Family Energetics, and now Human Design to know ourselves. EFT allows us to clear past traumas and old emotional blocks so that we can fully access and embrace our authentic selves, releasing old patterns, blocks, and thoughts that limit us being … Read more
The Points Described The side-0f-the-hand point is the pinkie side edge of the hand. The eyebrow point is located at the beginning of either eyebrow near the bridge of the nose on the orbital bone. The side-of-the-eye point is found by following the eyebrow around to its end, near the outside of either eye, on the bone, in front … Read more
Well, many of you have heard by now that today Gary Craig announced his retirement. You can read his announcement here: I’m not sure what impact his retirement will have on the EFT community and I imagine some folks are concerned. As an EFT practitioner, I will miss the emofree.com site as it’s been an … Read more
Imagine a continuum, a sliding scale, with fear on the left end and unconditional love on the far right. Ideally we are free to along that scale and of course, the ideal is to be moving towards love. Now imagine being tied down like Gulliver of Gulliver’s travels with hundreds of tiny but strong ropes. … Read more
Whether we are the adults getting divorced, the young children of the divorced parents, or even the adult children of divorced parents, divorce matters. For the adults getting divorced, there are the usual feelings of guilt, relief, grief, betrayal all mixed up in one. For the children, there is often a hidden feeling of not … Read more
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