Healing yourself, loving the world
Deborah Donndelinger 
Our hearts long to belong. We want to know that we have value and we come from a family that has value. However, how do we love and accept our ourselves and our family when we see a history of abuse? Or a history of cancer? Or a history of mental illness? Or lost babies? … Read more
The world met you on December 5, 2012. I had known you for a bit longer. The first time I saw you, I literally shook with excitement, awe, and delight. I was overcome with seeing you in physical form. I delighted in looking at your features, your details, and the love of life you represent. … Read more
This fall, I had the chance to work with a delightful 11-year-old boy T. who was having some trouble with math. His parents and the school had tried a variety of ways to support him, and he had made great progress in all areas but math. The parents asked me to see what I could … Read more
Many years ago I facilitated organization strategic business planning and professional goal setting. There was a model of evaluating goals called SMART. SMART stood for the following five criteria: Specific Measurable Attainable or Actionable Realistic Time-Oriented. I find those criteria to be somewhat helpful but they don’t nearly account for intuition, our own unique energy … Read more
The world needs us to step up If you were to look at your development personally and spiritually as a continuum, or an evolving state of being, you might notice movement through some of the following areas: Unaware of my actions and how my past history affects who I am today. Aware of my past … Read more
Five spiritual teachers walk into a bar. How do you know that’s true? ~ Byron Katie Choose your truth. ~ Abe Life means suffering. ~ Four Noble Truths Swami Vivekananda: All truth is eternal. When the remedy you have offered only increases the disease, then leave him who will not be cured, and tell your story … Read more
Family Constellations teaches that guilt is the price of leaving. What if there’s a new way? When we leave a family unit, or any group that gives us a sense of safety and identity, it’s like we are leaving the gravitational field of a planet. It takes a certain momentum to leave. Often this momentum … Read more
You’ve done your personal work You’ve done your personal work, but still feel stuck in some areas of your life. Perhaps a relationship that just doesn’t feel right, lack of progress in your work, or a general sense of unease with who you are. You don’t fit your life, yet. You’ve tried tapping, therapy, past life … Read more
I am lucky. I have a very active and smart brain. I can dissect a problem, plan it, map it, set criteria, and prioritize it – you get the idea. I am also lucky in that I have a very strong intuition. I also can have a sense of something, a deep insight, that has … Read more
Look at most business advice on setting rates and you’ll find something along the lines of “Charge what you are worth” or, “You are not charging enough.” Many business coaches advise their clients to raise their rates. There is an assumption that if you are not getting top rates, you have a self-confidence issue or a … Read more
I love EFT. I love how we can make significant changes using a whole new paradigm that is really mind-boggling with both its potential and results. Do you remember the first time you used EFT and felt the emotion fade from your body and the expansive feeling and thoughts move in? It’s truly an awesome tool. … Read more
Being, doing, spiritual or material? Sounds like twenty questions doesn’t it? Vegetable, mineral, or animal? Bigger than a breadbox or smaller? Worldly success is achieved by doing. Spiritual success is achieved by undoing. A juicy conversation yesterday on facebook after I posted this Alan Cohen’s quotes led me to realize how much spiritual advice points to … Read more
Am I supporting my children’s connection to their intuition, inner knowing, physical instincts, mental capacities, emotional truth, and personal authority? To me this is the basis of my parenting and what the movements of unschooling, attachment parenting, and conscious parenting are all about. It’s my definition of what Robin Grille calls the “helping mode” of … Read more
Date March 19. 2010. Location An alternative health care center on the East Coast Task Follow the relief The background At the time I was suffering from a variety of health issues that were really dragging me down. I had had a sudden weight gain of 45#, severe joint pain, stiffness, headaches, and major detox issues. I was … Read more
One of the breakthrough insights I had during my daily tapping was around the role of the emotion of shame. This insight applies also to fear and anger (Enneagram enthusiasts will recognize these three emotions as corresponding to the heart, head, and body triads respectively.) I never knew what to do with the feeling of … Read more
Don’t be like me and stop at 1 or 2 intensity! Keep going and find new aspects for relief.
Family Energetics is a new approach for getting relief The premise is the same as Gary Craig’s for EFT but at the family level. The cause of negative emotion is a block in the FAMILY’s energy system. Solutions are found in the family matrix Problems found in the family matrix can look like blocks in our … Read more
The very first blending of tapping and Family Constellations, this article explaining the combination of EFT and Family Constellations was published in Gary Craig’s newsletter in 2010. It eventualy led to the book Family Energetics published on Amazon on 2012. Hi Everyone, Deborah Donndelinger says, “I have come up with an approach for using EFT … Read more
Yes, you can tap for someone else, if you get yourself out of the way. Here’s how.
The history of parenting is rather brutal, with children once considered non-entities that could be discarded, killed, or used at the parent’s whim. Over time, our collective approach to parenting is evolving and developing, which is good news indeed. How we collectively parent is the leading force that shapes how we are as a country … Read more
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