Healing yourself, loving the world
Transcend and include, the relief found in spiral dynamics Spiral dynamics is a theory of social development, also mapping to our individual development, that provides a powerful perspective and roadmap for our growth. It’s important for several reasons: Helps us see the hope when there’s such a variety of behavior in society Helps us grow … Read more
Feisty with a tender heart and an unbreakable spirit This past week on my personal FB page, I shared an article called “Do You Belong to One of the 5 Indigo Generations?” and had a blast as others resonated with the article. Finding out I was an Indigo when I was about 30 was a … Read more
I’ve been writing recently about the stages of our healing and transformational journeys. I see four distinct areas, with a fifth, unknown, creative area. Heal our wounds on a personal level (read blog post here) Heal our wounds on a family ancestral level (read blog post here) Understand ourselves and our gifts and role in … Read more
Our healing journey I’ve been thinking a lot about the healing journey I’ve been on and the journey I see in others. There are five parts I’m noticing, the first four I can name — the fifth is unknown still! I hope to touch on each of these over a few blog posts. The five … Read more
Let’s talk about what’s triggering you. Did I say talk? I meant tap. Surrogate tapping is a way to tap for people we care about. In those situations, it’s helpful to clear our own response to what’s happening first before respectfully stepping into tapping for others. There are different ways to do this. I used to … Read more
Happy August to you all. Hope you’re enjoying some outside time wherever you live! A few weeks ago, I had the chance to share tapping at my local spiritual center. The participants are all seasoned spiritual journeyers, grounded and well versed in self-care tools, and it was an absolute delight to share tapping with them. … Read more
I first wrote this piece in 2013. Rereading it today, it’s even more applicable in today’s social-political climate. I reference EFT, also known as tapping, but the insights stand, regardless of which approach you use to move through your emotional and cognitive changes. The relief of self-differentiation I’ve discovered through my own process, and the … Read more
Two truths and a lie There’s an ice-breaker game called Two Truths and a Lie where each participant writes down three stories about herself, two true and one a fib, and the others try to guess which is which. It’s a fun exercise as an ice-breaker, but it points to something I find much more … Read more
I see what I want in the unwanted. When something undesired happens, we can feel confused and thwarted. We might think: “What did I do to cause this?” “What did I do wrong?” “I cannot have what I want.” We also might experience feel blame or anger as we try to bypass our feelings of … Read more
Sometimes the actions and words of others hurt us. We can heal our response to the outside world but once in a while we might be left with some lingering resentment. Assuming we have already done our inner work and have supported ourselves in honoring the hurt, the best way to release this lingering resentment is to … Read more
As we’ve experienced unprecedented political events in both the UK and the US over the last year, I’ve had the feeling of emerging from a fuzzy, confusing mental cocoon into a field of clarity and connection. Perhaps like Dorothy uncovering the Wizard of Oz and getting home again, it feels like a veil of obscurity … Read more
Ever notice that all these different systems have an invitation to see the health in the system. Gene Keys Embrace the shadow; through the shadow, we find the gift. Integral theory or spiral dynamics Transcend and include. Enneagram Our greatest gifts to the world come from the journey through our deepest wounds. Human Design Each … Read more
The Enneagram, like other spiritual systems, teaches us about the triad of heart, body, and mind. As we are grounded in our bodies, we can open our hearts, and then listen with a clear mind. Like many people raised in our western culture, I have tended to value my intellect first and ignored the body … Read more
I was quite surprised to hear the words “I love who I am” coming out of my mouth this past week as I was talking with a client. We were talking about human design. I learned about design about seven or eight years ago from Marian Mills (now Marian May.) We were both moderators on the … Read more
“The way we get to know each other is fateful” — how powerful a statement. I have been wanting to facilitate an opening roundtable for our beautiful Spring Energy Event the last two years and this year I had the opportunity. On the opening evening Friday, I offered the following questions to the participants: What … Read more
It’s a funny thing those goals, plans, and resolutions …. I was clearing off my bulletin board a few weeks ago. On the board, I had put notes at the start of 2014 with areas to look at for the year, specific things I thought I wanted to do, and vaguer intuitive desires about 2014. … Read more
When I suggest to my clients they look at the Gene Keys work, I have several reasons in mind: The idea of the shadow, gift and Siddhi of each gate/hexagram/gene key is a compelling one and fits in with my Enneagram studies and the levels of development. It offers us a vision of the unique … Read more
When I first learned about the Enneagram, a model of personal and spiritual development, I learned it as this: We each have a core wound or dysfunction and as we try to fix this core problem, we inadvertently re-create the very thing we fear. I found substantial relief in this model because it introduced to me … Read more
Jovian Archive, home of Ra Uru Hu, the original messenger of Human Design. Zen Human Design, one of my teachers. She has some very unique perspectives about human design. She trained originally with Ra and then they went separate ways. I appreciate her center-based approach and from her learned to not use type. Kim Gould’s … Read more
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