Don’t thank me for voting

Healing yourself, loving the world

It was a simple statement.  One that at first glance was courteous.   But on a second glance, I began to realize what it really meant.

When we left yesterday after voting, someone holding a campaign sign said thank you for voting.  I was aware of feeling uncomfortable and wasn’t sure why.  After sitting with this, I realized through the lens of Family Constellations, that simple statement reflected a sense of power and also exclusion.

It implies that the person saying thank you holds the responsibility, the ownership and that the person being thanked was doing them a favor.

It points to the fundamental flaw in thinking that there is a “we” and a “they” and that there is a separation between politician and voter, between party a and party b, between folks supporting X and folks opposing X.

It’s the same dynamic in a constellation when someone tries to say I am sorry or I forgive you.  It points to a separation and a “bigger than energy”.

There’s nothing to fix here.  Just an observation that leads me to the vision of how it will feel when we re-remember we are all connected, all equals, and the illusion of separation drops away.

Photo by Dave Dollar

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Deborah Donndelinger

Deborah Donndelinger

I'm writing from Maryland, but my heart goes out all over the world. I'm cheering you on as you tackle the hard stuff, embrace the easy, and show up to help others.